RECOVERy

Change is inevitable. 
Suffering is sometimes needed.
Loss is almost always experienced in a lifetime.
 Let-Down occurs often.
Mistakes are actions worth growing from.


How do you ReCover?

I want to say I allow myself a few minutes to be depressed....
Then comes ReFlection time...
Somewhere after that a lesson is learned and stored away in my mental.
Then I am up on my feet on to the next milestone of life or everyday livin'...

If ..we all.. woke up every single day and said to ourselves in the mirror...
"Self - there is a good chance something you would not like to happen to you -- will happen today."
"But! Irregardless if it does - YOU WILL RECOVER."
Recovery Might not be so Hard.

Peace Gods & Goddesses

Keep Him Near

*weekly weds blog*
***POOF

Supporting Your Own

At What Cost?

How many of us start each day off thinking about ourselves?
Its only natural right?
Especially folks without loved ones they live with or are responsible for?
Unless there were lingering thoughts from the night before...

Everyday I hope that I stop and think about how I can help my community
Whether its a young man or woman, boy, or girl
Sometimes our elderly, or mature and wise in age
But then I stop and Consider the Cost...
Can I afford too?

It's difficult at times determining which path to take
1. The road where we tunnel vision - focus - on building ourselves to be the best we can be so we can financially, mentally, spiritually, and via our own influence and connections be able to help someone with less then what we have... How long will it take to become that powerhouse?
OR
2. Where we stop at every open hand, every friend/old foe/cousin and kin to share wealth, knowledge, care & concern, earned/networked: connects'... then don't look back, just pray and hope...

I think the individuals I take pride in knowing and make me smile THE MOST!...
Are the ones of us that smile, extend, give, share, help with not one inch of hesitation of "Will this benefit Me"... and even when!!!!! It is not recieved in a grateful form or smiled back upon, or maybe even spit on...they smile in stride...That Child of God.... will stay blessed.

Who did you help today?

Consistency Myrica is Killing Spontaneous Myrica

One of my Failed New Years goals for 2012... Consistency!

How does one live in the world of fun, new, exciting, spontaneity and still spawn structure?
I haven't figured it out yet.
YOU should be able to tell that though.
If you are one of my readers you know that I can't even produce my weekly weds blog every weds!

But the part that pains me is... consistency or ...the ability to be consistent, stares me right in the face.
It's reachable.
Fully attainable by me at most times. 
But I pass by it... ignore it.. opt for the "new"...or "unknown"...

Here comes the grown up insert folks ... wait for it...
"When I end up being spontaneous and avoid my consistent mature/responsible plan or action of the day, in the end ...it wasn't really worth it".
#sigh
It's true. 

Whoever invented schedules, daily goals, rules for one self during the work week....
Definitely knew what they were doing. 
They probably realized that their whole life was wasting away on 
..."FUN!", "NEW!", "SPONTANEOUS!"
All the while they were ending each day, week, month with nothing to show for it.. 

Who wants to Die that way?
Not me!!!!!
*runs after consistent myrica*

****Exits stage Right**********************

Your Friendship/Social Circle

WHOA! Missed three wednesdays back to back huh folx? Miss me??? :)

Well my life is constantly evolving which I believe is always a good thing if you have SOME consistency... When I transition I must prioritize and unfortunately weekly wednesday blog's fall to the bottom of this tall stock pile. But guess what! It's time for that annual out of the country trip tomorrow so I have an off day today to focus on my inner thoughts...and then as a treat (to me) share them with you ;-).

Today I want to touch on Our Circles..
For those of you on Google + (name drop) we can use that analogy...
Most folks have social circles. 
These are people we are social with... almost constantly..
Maybe over social networks, phone app's, long distance phone calls, or in person..

Did you know these people (whether you feel you are no longer impressionable and/or a leader) in some ways can shape your everyday life?
Think about it... they are quite possibly in your subconscious. 
How you determine what should be your acceptable goals for the day, verified negatives you are continuously trying to remove from your life, or laziness with an array of every day tasks...
Our circles and how the people in those circles live there everyday life (the parts they make viewable to the public/friends anyway) rubs off on our standard way of life. 

Shocking! Huh?!

I know. This is even true of us that like to think of ourselves as leaders and not followers, or people that set the standard....
How? Well think of this.. You are trying your best not to "out shine" your friends that are struggling to keep up with you and your daily achievements so you instead move to a slower beat...
You may think, well "I am encouraging them daily to do better..." but who then encourages YOU daily to "do better then what you already can do"? Hmmmm *chew on that* 

Or maybe that circle of friends that you only kick it with, chill and relax with..laugh at movies with.. have different forms of intoxication with... they may be VERY diverse from yourself.. 
As you relax... I am pretty sure this is the time you allow yourself to slightly vegitate and just focus on the best ways to achieve laughter (which is a healthy form of entertainment for us) but..I am willing to bet someone in that group for example... cusses a little more then they should, or... eating habits are crazy (but whatever there eating always looks great!)..Now even though these aren't your daily habits...you know whats happening right?...
 The laxisidasical environment in which you relax...you will take home with you to your own solitary domain where these habits will become apart of you and you won't even know it!

Ah. Yes. This sux right? 

I know. I agree actually. Because the few tiny (revolving door) circles I have I quite enjoy them for their primary purposes. 
My goal is definitely to create healthier circles for my mind, body, and soul... but in the meantime..who want's to be by themselves all the time? Or hanging with their parents/wise elders everyday?
Not this only chile!

Have a great labor day weekend folx.
Pray for me as I jet to DR ;-).

I definitely love the Lord!

Psalm 145:18-19 () 18 The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. 19 He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry and saves them. #Bible http://j.mp/uMaeHw

Life Change!

Started a new job this week... life been real...
Real Grownup that is..
Be back with you kids next wednesday...way past the bedtime....

Dream Deep

Set your dreams unreachable....


I get bored with what those around me see as examples of "life success"...
Everyone reaching for the same career or entrepreneurial type goal..
So I set my own personal life goals...
They are a combo of love, religious, family, financial, educational, fitness/physical shape, happiness, career like goals all in one...
I set myself to focus on 1-3 goals a day and baby step to improving on each one.

Helps me stay organized and focused on moving forward in my OWN DREAMS

I think as we age our dreams should too
then re-invent themselves in case we ever reach one
and establish new ones!

Where do you feel like the line is drawn between a "goal" and a "dream"? hmmm...

*Till next time y'all!

Our Youth...

I have talked to new friends 5 and 10 years younger then me..
mostly african american male friends...
I do worry... at times who will run our country or who i hope to see make strides in our community for "US" 2020 and beyond...

The crazy thing is...my parents who are about 30 or less years older then me and still married..since 1977...
Worry about my OWN generation and what we are doing now to "TRY" and be leaders in our community..

If you are 30+ or older like me... do you worry about what your son and daughter will represent for the future of 'US' in the USofA?

*worry*
#dosomethingaboutit

Family

Everyday we wake up and do what we think is important...

For whom do you do important things for?

Yourself?

Your wife/husband/fiance'?

Your child/ren?

Your mom/dad/grandparents/folks who cared for you when you were young?

What do they mean to you?

in 2012...in this economy, a lot of family members care for other family members...

But even if they didn't financially share with them, it's important to spend quality time around that loved one(s)... it's something most desire to do...on a regular basis.

Family, can be a part of a daily routine. 

It's what helps some folks live, day to day.

Three things about family are very interesting to me.

1) We should always love them, even if we don't like them

2) Who once cared and looked out for us while we were young, we may come to care for ourselves

3) New Family bonded by love and not blood should be cared for just as much as old family bonded by blood...

What is your thought about that last one? *Care to Share*

I will always love my family, they have done everything they can to care for me 

But I am super excited about a new family of my own! 

Whenever God decides... I am ready :)

TTYL

True Purpose

Today I wonder what God's True plan for me is.
Today is Thursday Folks...I missed Wednesday weekly blog check in session...
But today here I am still Blogging...
Because maybe, this blog will help someone with there purpose...any type of purpose...
Life Long Purpose, Today's Purpose, Smile/Laugh Purpose, Think Purpose...
Ponder Purpose....hmmm


Outside of our Divine Purpose to Serve God and Help others to as well..
What are we or what are YOU here for?
Is it do that 9-5 you do every day?
To start that family you started?
To be a entrepreneur and be great at it?

WHAT IS IT?
How do we know?
If we were all born knowing, do you think we would do everything in us to make sure we reach that purpose? Or would we ignore/defy it?
Sometimes I think life would be easier if we knew day 1 though.
And our Elders showed/told/helped us understand what is as we became to understand.
That way ...there would be less Humans out there making silly life changing mistakes trying to "Find Themselves" or understand "What their life is all about" right?

Or maybe...the purpose is about learning all this cool stuff on the way to learning our true purpose?
Maybe you won't know your true purpose until it just HITS! you one day! *BAM!*
What do I/We do in the meantime though?

#praisehim
#loveoneanother
#expandyourmind

Forbidden Fruits....

Today I want to blog about....

The things we are not "supposed" to have...
Do you ever stop and ask yourself... do you want it/them because it's on the "don't touch" list?
Do you think that you would want it as bad if it was readily accessible to you w/o guilt regularly?

I could refer this to the popular male/female 80/20 debate...
Or that food that taste so good and is so bad for you...
Or that drug that is illegal...

I want this blog to inspire and really cause you to sit down and think a bit.
So, I have decided to keep it short.
*Ponder*

Personality Types

Today I was having a tough time deciding what to blog about...
Mainly because it's wednesday, i am in between full time positions in my primary career...
Under my preferred financial status to focus on my secondary career of marketing through my entrepreneurial efforts...
But yet still have many errands, tasks, projects, meetings, and goals to focus on today...in the next two hours specifically...

Can you guess my personality type?
How about Scatterbrained? LOL...
Noooo but I would label myself as a Overachiever, or Multi-tasker
Now to define multi-tasker as a personality type is not speaking just to activities, but also thoughts, goals for the day, actions, etc.
Yes - I am making up my own definition for the purpose of this blog.

It's my blog and my brain I can do what I want to right?


I think you have the very basic personality types you can define:
Quiet
Shy
Loud
Fun
Mean
Jealous
Cocky
Smart or Smart A**


But there are some folks I know who's personality is 2-3 of those in one. 
And if there a gemini one on mon, weds, fri, and another on tues, thurs, and weekends. HA!
One of the things I love about myself and others is the Chameleon affect of a personality....

My personality matches my environment and what's smartest for me to be happy, successful in that current environment... *see i'm smart too ;-)*... so it changes... based on YOU, based on the drama of the current environment, or based on the loud person in the corner that seems to seek all of the attention of everyone in the room. I stop.... think.... ok, what is the best version of MY personality for this current circumstance that, in the end ....will end up helping me? Then..... I become... Me...

So... who are you?
What's your personality type?
Do you have more than one type?
Are you a chameleon personality type as well? *Love You if so!*
Do you have pet peeve personality types? If so why?
Whats your fav type?

Loving your feedback on today's blog.... weekly wednesday...check back next week.....keep me on track to post...because as you read above, I get distracted easily with Life :). #adhd

Priortize

What are your current Priorities?
What were your past priorities?
Do you think the Current priorities will change to different priorities in the Future?

I am definitely one that has to keep an active list of priorities...
Why?
Because it's easy for me to lose focus on what's most important because I stay so busy.
When you have so much to do in each 24 hour day...
In My Opinion, it's nice to have a order to what most definitely must get done before the day is out.

Now if your an adult, some things are permanent unwritten priorities
Wash
Brush
Dress
For example.....

Well I am trying to add to that permanent unwritten list for myself and/personal priorities...
Exercise
Pray/Study His Word/Be a blessing to someone less fortunate or in need
Earn Money

That's my short list... there are some other things that I wish to have as permanent fixtures too...
I may discuss those in another blog.*
But just to stop and think of all the other things that I could possibly add to my day that I wish to get accomplished is overwhelming to say the least. So I have to often remind myself, it's ok that the "less important" priorities aren't going to get done daily- every day. But!- to leave them on my list daily to continue to push myself to do better, reach father, and to stay busy.
Staying busy with a list of positive priorities (positive being defined by you for your own personal goals as a human being) keeps us out of trouble right? I don't like to think about one second that I let pass by where I wasn't doing something constructive. Having ADHD helps with that ;-), working out as much as I do and having a lot of energy also helps with that.

But just now I took a breath and stared at the wall....oh no! #timewasted
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I want to end this blog with saying this about your past vs current vs potentially future priorities....
If YOU have a goal for your future that you canNOT accomplish or reach without changing your daily/weekly/monthly priorities NOW.
Re-do Your list, and better yet - look at the list every so often to make sure it's updated.

A vision board you glance at daily might help ;-)

Am I good enough?

Pick Me!
Pick Me!
Pick Me!

Anyone else ever feel like we go through this our entire lives?
When your born you seek your parents love and affection.
When your little you hope the popular kids want to be your friends.
When you reach adolescence you hope the boy/girl you like, likes you.
When you finish school you hope the company you are dreaming of working for hires you.
When your dating you hope the grown man/woman of your dreams asks to be with you forever.

I often recall in life, times where I was trying my HARDEST to be "picked"...I was NEVER picked.
Left feeling alone, and undesired.
But then, when I constantly work on self improvement and competition in all avenues of life...
Work..Career...Business... Health.. Beauty.. Spirituality... Education.. Mental Strength..Humility...Love..
There become way too many options to choose from. All that seem to have "chosen me" in one way or the other... I digress... this is not a "grass is always greener on the other side" Post...

So let me re-direct My Thoughts...

What is the easy answer for what/who you strive to be?
Other then God's Child striving to follow his footsteps and become the Christian he calls you to be....
Have you set a Bar for "Good Enough" or Excellence of one self/"You"...
If you have been able to determine what that might be for YOU...what are you measuring against?
How did you come about that set marker? What will you do when you reach that? Stop working hard to better yourself?

Whatever you do.... don't set the Marker based on any other human being's acceptance.
Its a good chance YOU are your number one supporter, and motivator to be better/best/great.
Even if you don't know it yet. :)
Maybe this will be a wakeup call for you...and me.. 

FaithFULL

Dear Lord,

 Please help me keep my Faith Steady.

 It's so hard to know and believe everything will be "alright".
 Mainly because I think what's in most human's head as what feels or what we desire in order to be "alright" may have nothing to do with what you have planned for us.
 I pray to not be a burden on others.
 I pray to not be taken advantage of and "feel it" happening unless there is a lesson from you for me, in it.
 I pray for the strength to always stay bubbly and deal with life transitions with a strong stand and huge
 smile.
 I pray.

I know you got me. Every now and then something happens only that I would notice that reminds me. Usually when I am the most uneasy.
I love you.
Thanks for being my #1.

Your Child.

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I missed Blog Wednesday's Yesterday!

Blah!


My J.O.B. is imitating Life, and Life is imitating my J.O.B.

...yea...figure that one out....

Welcome to Weekly Blog Wednesday's Folks...

Been Slackin a lot lately...
On the Bloggin...


Hell. real life caught up to my free time- to ....space out and share thru words...


Not that it matters.. 
It wasn't missed :-p

 I tend to hold my deepest thoughts for this typing surface though so it's a good stress reliever for me ...and delivers some insight for you ... doesn't it? *yes YOU*...






I'll be back ;-)